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Parting is such sweet sorrow: An ode to Londontown

2 Oct

Farewell LondonIt has been many months since I’ve written, not due to a dating drought, but something much more life changing…. I’ve taken my first job as a writer in a continent where I’m nearly considered to be of normal height. Yes, sadly, I packed my bags and all of my beloved shoes, and said goodbye to London and have moved to Kuala Lumpur.

It was a bittersweet departure… London was where my heart, friends and without a doubt some of my best and worst memories were – all muddled up in a beautiful and confusing montage of two very distinct chapters. Chapter One was the time I spent with my boyfriend before we broke up; years spent exploring London together, going on romantic holidays, lazy Sunday’s, dinners in quirky little restaurants and lots of laughter, all before confusion set in and I realized that I was no longer in love with him. Shit.

Under the glaze of rose tinted glasses and the passing of time, I mainly only remember our wonderful trips to Europe, walking through the London’s stunning parks in autumn together, drinking red wine in cozy pubs and cafes on winter afternoons, and of course, the joy of cuddling him through a bitterly-cold night.

And then there’s Chapter Two – the single years. Numerous girls’ holidays filled with brief flings, the delight of regressing back to a teenager when you get asked for your number, and countless nights spent in lovely London pubs putting the world to rights with your friends.

Again, with my rose glasses removed, the reality also involved: nights spent wishing you had someone to cuddle during those cold nights (or when you couldn’t slept because you were barely had a penny to your name); the realisation that some men really can be bastards; and loneliness – as despite London being a city of nine million, it has a way of making you feel lonely like no other when you’re down and out.

However, after seven years in this city, you develop a thick skin (if not just to keep the cold out), so I had come to terms with these things. The real, and so incredibly unsexy and boring issue was the recession. It had not only impacted the glamorous parts of single lifestyle described above, it also meant that I spent over a year going for countless job interviews in pursuit of my writing dream and to escape the soulless corporate world that I had strangely found myself in.

It became obvious that perhaps this fairytale was not having such a happy ending, and that it was time to discover a new Kingdom in a land far far away in search of not only a prince, but also a fulfilling career (I am a modern girl after all)….

So bye bye my darling London…. hello Kuala Lumpur…

Princess Ruby on: Could your next date be sitting next to you?

10 Jun

Definition:

‘A meet-cute is a situation in which a future romantic couple meets for the first time in a way that is considered adorable, entertaining, or amusing. It can also be applied to two people destined to become buddies’.

Meet-cutes are, without a doubt, probably the best thing about being single. Those little surprise encounters where you bump into someone (sometimes quite literally) who momentarily stops you in your tracks and makes your heart do a little flip. They often happen when you least expect them, or as I’ve recently discovered – while waiting for a bus or a plane!

I guess this is what makes them so cute; because they’re completely organic and even the most unromantic can’t help but think that maybe fate is playing its part. And so my story begins…

Meet-cute #1

One evening, my friend was sitting at a bus stop shivering, staring out at the road optimistically willing a red double-decker bus to turn the corner, rescue her from near hyperthermia and take her home – when a guy also sharing the same fate asked her for a lighter. Not a smoker herself, she was unable to help, however this prompted a conversation which lead to him suggesting they give up on the bus and go for a drink together instead.

They dated for a while, and would often laugh about their cute encounter, however unfortunately cigarettes weren’t his only vice – he also had a taste for snorting a certain Class A drug to help him deal with his high pressure city trading job.

When his nasty little friend started making an appearance before, during and after their dates, my friend conceited defeat and realised that perhaps fate hadn’t bought her prince. But nonetheless, her little ‘meet-cute’ does make her smile from time to time when she’s shivering waiting for the bus.

Meet-cute #2

On route to India a few months ago, I was browsing an uninspiring sandwich counter at Heathrow Airport when I looked up to catch the eyes and the very inviting smile of my next beau. After buying my sandwich I hesitantly walked out the store while flashing my best flirty smile back (one I have done my best to perfect over the years!).

As I waited outside the store for a friend, I froze when I noticed Sandwich Boy was coming over.  He introduced himself and gave me his business card, asking me to get in touch upon my return.

I took him up on this offer and we ended up going on one those amazing first dates where you instantly click, laugh (and well, eventually kiss) for hours!

However, alas, the second date was not such a success. Unsure whether the wine from the previous date had clouded my judgement, he started the date off by making jokes about a slightly overweight girl in the pub, then went on to brag about how much money he made (yawn) right before promptly pointing out that it was my turn to buy the next round, despite only being half way through my drink.  The date rapidly went down from there spelling the end of our ‘meet-cute’!

Meet cute #3

Around the same time, another friend had a transport ‘meet-cute’, however this time while boarding a flight to Australia. He spotted the lovely lass as they were boarding the plane, and to his luck, she sat in the same row as him. Unfortunately, he fell asleep, and when he woke he noticed he had not only missed dinner, but the girl too – as she had moved to the row behind him.

Hungry and disappointed, he looked around to notice her moving back to his row and told him that she had left a chocolate for him in the pouch of his seat as he had missed dinner! The chocolate was not the only thing that melted… he was smitten (after all, the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach). They have since gone on a few dates, however as she’s an air hostess from Portugal… it has made dating a little difficult.

Although, just goes to show… you never know who you might meet on your next journey!

Princess Ruby on: the demise of her dating mojo and how not to win the lottery

17 Oct

It is safe to say that on many occasions I’ve been more excited about going on a date, rather than actually going out with my ‘date.’ This is partly due to my belief that dating is like playing the lottery..you have to be in it to win it… and I certainly love to play.

The adventure of the whole process – from date to potential mate – is really what makes being single exciting…. you just never know what might happen. Such thrills usually leave me beaming from ear-to-ear, however of late, my beam has gone – I fear I’ve lost my dating mojo.

After some careful consideration, there seems to be a few catalysts for my dating demise: the departure of a boy and Saturday night cocktails.

Let me start with the boy. Funny, cheeky and sweet – we really hit it off. Unfortunately our short-lived romance was doomed from the start – as he was moving to Australia..effectively leaving on a jet plane, not knowing when he’ll come back again!

Therefore returning back to the dating scene can be rather uninspiring when the same buzz….even with the aid of your favourite cocktail…just isn’t there.

And speaking of cocktails – this leads me to my next concern –  I tend to meet my potential suitors when I’m out on a Saturday night, and under the warm and somewhat misleading guide of a drink or two. Therefore if a date follows our initial hazy encounter, I often know so little about them and end up I’m thinking something along the lines of: ‘I could have sworn their hair had been a different colour when I first met them!’

Previously, this would be part of the thrill; the start of many comical mishaps (shortly followed by me tripping over) which would be relayed back in hysterics to my girlfriends.

Having experienced that very situation recently (however to be fair, blonde isn’t too far a stretch from red hair, right?), I’m starting to see how this may not be the best strategy to apply when looking for Prince Charming.

Best case scenario,  you hit it off (which after all, is the aim of the game)…however worst case scenario, the conversation sinks faster than the titanic and leaves you both relying on the aid of more alcohol to get you back to where you were when going out with them seemed like a good idea. Not surprisingly, this process is flawed on many levels – unless you intend to spend your entire relationship in a pub.

So it seems dating really isn’t like playing the lottery. While buying multiple tickets may help increase your chances of securing a win, going on multiple dates with someone you don’t know (or remember) does not. As when it comes to matters of the heart…it takes more than a sequence of numbers to hit the proverbial jackpot!

Princess Ruby on Great Expectations – the search for the English gent

11 Sep

While not a lover of English period dramas, when growing up in Australia I had been under the illusion that the English gent, aka Mr Darcy, was as synonymous as the black cab – stylishly roaming around London day and night waiting to pick you up. So when I moved over to London some six years ago with my boyfriend at the time, I was a little confused by what I found – there certainly were men roaming the streets, some looking for love, many searching for sex, however their disguise and behaviour threw me.

For example, the edgy and artistic East London type rocking the skinny jeans and drugged-up look; the sport fanatics who often socialise and chant in flocks while sporting football shirts stretched to their limit as a beer belly protrudes from beneath; the 20-something Chelsea lads with cardigans wrapped around their necks while wearing pink chinos dotted with birds; or the ‘city boys’ – your suited and booted traders and bankers cashed-up, and in some instances, coked-up to their eyeballs.

Duck trousers

Having dabbled with most of the above (minus men wearing pink chinos with birds), despite their obvious differences there seems to be a common thread– there’s a lad culture like no other and an unwillingness to commit until well past thirty and beyond. Could part of the problem be the city – one that offers too much choice and competition??

Having experienced some ‘cold feet’ issues of my own with that very boyfriend I moved here with all those years ago, I too got caught up in the pandemic. However having ‘matured’ a little (I just turned 30…gulp!), I now feel I’m ready to hang up my glass slipper so to speak. But with some of my male counterparts still caring too much about what their friends think while drinking to excess, roaming the streets like 18-year-olds pissing up against street corners….or worse… as I once experienced, on my new cushions… the English ‘gent’ has left me disillusioned – no matter their appearance or disguise!